Cazz– Being monogamous is harder than given up weed. If you have a man or woman who is with just you, then you should celebrate, cherish, and nurture that shit. I got married because I was in love. We were both in the military. I was young and it was the first time I really gave my all in any relationship. We used to look into each others eyes and talk about how much we loved each other.

Princess– How sweet…

Cazz– But then I was Hated on from the inside. She was pregnant so they sent her stateside, to the barracks and I was floating in the gulf. My daughter was like a breath of fresh air. I can’t lie there is something about marriage that is calming. I felt secure. Then she got pregnant with our second daughter. It’s funny, you know, we had this plan to save money buy a house, run a daycare or something, you know– the new American Dream. So I am working the plan, sending the money home because my time is starting to get short, but when my tour was over I found out that she was the one not sticking to the plan.

It’s a cold thing when you can’t let your wife go to the store by herself  because she a slut! You can’t imagine the strangeness you feel, being with someone everyday, but you are still alone. And before you can catch your breath all the bank accounts are dried up, the truck is repossessed and she is pregnant with another officers’ baby. Now everything is always your fault, so you’ve got to divorce her, but the she uses all of the shit she knows about you to hurt you. So now you can’t be happy because you ain’t never been hated– on until you’ve been hated on from the inside.

MG Hardie

Recently President Barack Obama evolved, or changed course on same-sex marriage., by now saying he supports gay marriage, but stresses that it is a personal position. This puts him in stark opposition to presumptive GOP nominee Mitt Romney who has firmly pledged his opposition to gay marriage. We won’t get into the rights and wrong of the issue or the possible financial and political motivations behind it. Was the president wrong to suggest that his daughter’s friends gay parents helped him see clearer? Was he wrong to come out in support of gay marriage, but not offer what he would do to move that forward? Is he setting the tone for the black community? Homosexuals are no longer a minority, while those that identify as gay may be. Besides most of these questions have been address by It Ain’t Just the Size.

Michael Eric Dyson has called those opposed to same-sex marriage as “Sexual Rednecks”, he also called religious zealotry as bigotry. Meanwhile pastor Jamal Bryant, CNN’s Roland Martin, and Sophia Nelson have taken to the airwaves to oppose the presidents “evolution” on gay marriage. Although Barack Obama is black he can’t be seen too closely associated with black issues. He has pledged support for women, military, Israel, gays, afghans and immigrants, but never support directly for blacks. Why?

The truth is that while mass marketed black cultural products are the rage in America, black people, especially descendants of slaves, just aren’t that popular. Well, not popular enough to warrant support or action from the president regarding a defacto 2nd class citizenship, mass incarcerations aimed at inner-cities and huge unemployment rates. Barack Obama has done and said much for “interest” groups, but he’s done nothing for blacks, unless you count him telling blacks to “get over it” and “stop whining.” What would happen if Barack Obama said to gays “quit crying and complaining”? I know people will say the president’s “administration” has programs that help blacks, or there are black gays and black immigrants. While this is true. It is also true that President Barack Obama appears afraid to address blacks and black issues in public.

I find it curious that after Barack’s personal “evolution” on gay-marriage, he went to Hollywood to a $40,000-a-plate fundraiser, which netted him 15 million dollars for his campaign. I have yet to see him in inner-cities of Los Angeles, New York or Chicago, isn’t he the president of the poor and down-trodden as well as the rich and influential? Isn’t he the President of all people and not just special interest. Some have suggested that black opposition to same-sex marriage is a religious one, it is not. While we are talking about black pain, gay inconvenience or the 1st Gay President… how did the black community become so entangled with gay rights? Some have suggested that President Obama is waiting until his 2nd term to really let the “Black” out. I don’t know what that means, but I do know that black people have always been told to be patient and wait, while other groups have gotten ahead. What I also know is that simply putting a black face on it won’t be good enough the second time around.

MG Hardie– Don’t let fear stop you from joining my fan page.

For decades Oprah Winfrey has done many things to help people whether that help came from the Oprah show’s subject matter, giving her audience members cars or opening up a school. It can even be said her 2007 endorsement of Barack Obama is what put him over the top in his bid to become president of the United States of America. First let me be clear, I know that because of the amount of hair on my face that there is zero chance that I will be on Oprah’s show. That being the case, I have no problem with Oprah at all. Oprah Winfrey is an amazing woman who has overcome unbelievable odds to become one of the most powerful and influential people in the world.

The Oprah show is largely positive, but at times it is a show of sexual anxiety, victim hood, exploitation, and dark vision of sexual relationships. Strong positive Black Men are almost non-existent on Oprah’s show. On Friday, Oprah has a live show of weekly recaps and talks about current events in a round table type of atmosphere. On Friday Jul 9, 2010 a riot broke out in Oakland California, over the police shooting of unarmed Oscar Grant, a black man, that same day Oprah was on her show eerily saying “Huuugh Jaaackmannn… I love his butt.”

What is the Message?

On Friday, March 6 of 2009 Oprah had an intervention show for Rihanna, where she famously said “If a man hits you once, he will hit you again“, in a reference to the recent altercation between singers Rihanna and Chris Brown. Many of the singers acquaintances and friends spoke out on the issue. However, Oprah, at the time, did not know Rihanna and this show was done more than a month later. Chris Brown said that since he knew Oprah and had done shows for her, that he thought that she would at least lend a helping hand and not parade him through the mud. When Bebe Winans was accused to domestic abuse Oprah didn’t cancel his appearance on her show until public protect demanded it. No one is trying to defending Chris “Fake Tears” Brown, but Oprah’s message wasn’t really directed to Rihanna, was it?

The people she supports usually sit next to her, while the opposite opinion often sit in the front row of the audience waiting to be called upon When Oprah was in Africa she said “I will not rest until every black boy and black girl has a chance to prove their worth.”, then she opened up a school for girls only.

On Friday , July 16 2010 on the Gayle King show, in referring to Mel Gibson’s tapped conversations with ex-girlfriend Oksana Grigorieva, Oprah stated “Most men in America speak to their women like Mel Gibson.” She can only know this if she has her own Talk Show Patriot Act and she might.

On an episode with Lance Armstrong, Oprah said “I never got married because I just wanted to always be myself.” Every relationship is a risk and marriage is supposed to be an partnership between individuals.

One episode stated that 70% black women are single. Seriously, is this a fact or a feeling?

Another Oprah show said that 1 out of 3 men are cheaters. This may be a correct statement, but Oprah’s shows somehow make it seem that these “Cheaters” are cheating alone, or as if the person they cheat with never knew that they were married. Raise your hand if you really think that the women Tiger Wood’s cheated with didn’t know that he was married. Tiger was dragged through the mud and rightly so, but the “Home Wreckers” are still being celebrated.


Shows like: “Men who have beaten Women”, “7 ways to end violence” and “Red Flags” are only offered to make viewers believe that Men are the beginning and end any violent act. Many claim that her shows are about empowerment, but do shows like “Wish Away Cancer”,  “A Lunchtime Face-Lift”, “Turn Back The Clock”, “Thin Your Thighs”, “Cure Menopause!”, “Erase Wrinkles”, “Banish Obesity”, really empower anything other than ratings?

You are probably saying “He’s hatin’”, or more likely “what’s the big deal. It’s just a talk show.” Oprah is the most powerful woman in media. Her show is seen in countries all over the world. So if she is constantly presenting misinformation, and one-sided opinions of males, black men in particular, then the question has to be asked; is she aiding in the racism and abuse that black men face on a daily basis? It is her show, she doesn’t have to be fair, nor does she have to be balanced, but if this is considered normal then America is not a mentally healthy nation. Men and Women are to be valued. Men are as much a part of the equation as women are. What kind of answer to do you get when you only solve half of an equation?


For decades Americans have accepted marginalization of individuals and groups, and here is where Oprah is no different. Oprah Winfrey as well as others have, perhaps unwittingly, taught the youth of America that in some respects that it is okay to mistreat someone if you can claim victim hood. These types of cycles persist in America because many of the root causes are not exposed and addressed; they are ignored, distorted, or deflected. Perhaps we all should be taking the lyrics of Travis McCoy’s “Billionaire” song to heart. In order for our nation society, in order for nation to grow everyone needs to have value. Now more than ever Americans need equality not superiority and you can put that in your Fat Wagon and pull it.

By the way Oprah telling Barbara Walters that you wished you were white is nothing to be proud about.

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